Sometimes we make decisions without really considering the larger impact. Sometimes we know the extended consequences.
Full disclosure: I am not a trained therapist, marriage counselor, grief counselor or anything of the sort, but I can speak from the experience of my own divorce, and I have a pretty good ear so I can also throw in a few lessons I’ve learned from other friends as well.
I couldn’t even afford to eat on a regular basis. I made sure my dog had sufficient food and water, but I was eating once every few days, and my “meals” were typically canned meat products that had expired several years earlier