I have mine as well. I try to be as open and honest as I can, but there are things I could never let anybody know, things that have me so ashamed that I cannot reveal them, and I cannot let go. But I will tell you that the more secrets I do reveal, the better I feel.
I am the guy that listens to women, and then respects their decision. I'm the guy that sees women in abusive relationships, points it out, and accepts her decision to stay in that relationship because it's her decision, not mine.
You know that scene from the movie where the lead actress decides it's over and throws out all of his belongings; you know, that comedy? I don't have to say which comedy, because I know of at least half a dozen movies with this scene.