I think it’s a reflection of how people want to have the opportunity to talk on, consider and share opinions on topics such as this. My friends know my situation (childless), my natural curiosity, and the fact that I just don’t judge. This gives a kind of safe space, even if it is very public, to have discussions such as this.
I enjoy being an enigma. I enjoy knowing that I have a kinky side that would have shocked many people through my life. It’s almost like having a hidden identity that nobody knows but those few who I trust not to “out” me.
It is not my or anybody else’s place to judge another person for who or how they choose to love so long as nobody else is being harmed.
In our society, I have always been disappointed by the stigmas surrounding the topic of sex. There is just way too much judgment, from "taboo" subjects of discussion, to labeling those who choose to participate, or not, in sex. Sadly these labels are too biased against women. The judgments to end. Sex is supposed to be fun. So have fun!
Sex is fun. It should be fun, and doubt detracts from the joy of sex. Unfortunately, too many people use it as a weapon, or a form of control. Don't let that happen. Your body/your choice. Have fun, but be sure that it is your choice, not somebody else's.